Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Nothing is Sometimes More

"I used to believe that anything was better than nothing. Now I know that sometimes nothing is better."
~ Glenda Jackson, British politician and actress.

"...and that applies to men too."
~ Annie Baker, experienced but fatigued dater.

Monday, October 26, 2009

Back-Up Remedy

If the cookies don't do it, I have 2 apple pies galette-style ready to bake for tomorrow night! It was a busy evening!!!


Chocolate or Men?

Hummm how many of my freshly-baked mocha cookies will it take to drown my sorrows?? 1 down, 31 more if needed.....

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Sexy Chick Flicks that Sizzle!

A few still to see; need to hit the video store!
from Sympatico.ca ~ Oct 21 2009.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Looking for the Genuine Ones

If only this could be done to all the ones, men and women, who misrepresent themselves on dating sites.....



Saturday, April 12, 2008

Online Dating Dry Spell

The dreaded coffee date never happened, so I worried for nothing! After we decided on the coffee shop location, he went on a business trip and never contacted me again, I guess he lost interest. Oh well…..
Been chatting with a couple of other guys from Plenty of Fish but nothing too earth-shattering. Unfortunately.
There’s this computer programmer I been chatting with online and he really stimulates me intellectually but I don’t think he’s as eager to get my emails as I am to get his. And then there’s this other computer guy form my home province but…again loss of interest. For a strange reason, I seem to often hook up with IT guys: 3 this month alone and a few in my past. Wonder if that’s a trend…..I discovered recently that for a successful relationship, I need to be attracted intellectually (and that happens rarely…), and probably because I’m really keen on computers, the geeks get my attention.
On another note, I got an offer from a middle-eastern man living in Spain, to move here to get to know me. I so don’t think so!! But it’s nice to know that when I get desperate, I have an option!!

Saturday, March 22, 2008

The Dreaded Coffee Shop Date!

What is it with guys who can only commit to a first meeting at Tim Horton’s?? It’s such an awful place to meet: sitting in front of each other, under fluorescent lighting, sizing up the other, with the crowd around listening in your conversation. For me, that spells easy escape route. So juvenile. I feel that if we somewhat connect online, we should be able to behave for a proper date even if the in-person meeting is not turning up as we would have like. Everybody can be interesting, if oly you're willing to listen. And to top it off, I wrote on my profile that since I’m not a coffee drinker, a meeting at Timmie’s just does do it for me. I guess some guys don’t read the profile in its entirety…. Anyway, so this guy wants to meet at Tim’s and I agreed because I didn’t know of any better coffee shops in that town, it’s a bit far from mine. BUT as he is a Computer Analyst, you know he scores extra points just for being a geek (see previous posting!) So knock on wood!

Saturday, March 15, 2008

7 Reasons to Date a Geek!

This is written by Kelly Jones ~ she writes a lot of stuff on love and relationship; I liked this one so much, I had to post it here! Maybe I should reorient my search .....

Geekiness is the new cool. Just look at super-nerd Bill Gates and his ilk and you'll see that the geeks truly have inherited the earth.
And our new need for all things nerdy has infiltrated our sense of romance, too. Herewith, seven reasons to give that geek in the next cubicle a second look and to get dreamy with a dork.
Perks by Proxy
The original definition of a geek is "a carnival performer whose act consists of outrageous feats such as biting the heads off live animals," but modern geekiness relates more to a certain obsession for all things computer- and technology-related, as well as a general sense of nerdiness. And so, dating a geek keeps you (and your approving pals and family) in the know and stockpiled with the world's newest and most fabulous technological gadgetry. You'll never have to make nice to your Internet provider's idiot customer service rep again. Here, here.
Dressed for Code
Many hardware hackers hang about in ill-fitting, mismatched bought-by-their-mama duds. To them, "style" has more to do with matching their iPod case to their pocket protector than handing over handfuls of cash for a few fancy labels. So when a geek actually gets dressed up for a special occasion (a second date with you might be such an outing), it's hard not to notice, and the old fall-for-a-hottie-in-a-suit thing comes into play.
Cyber Salaciousness
Geeks are inherently curious about the world around them. And inquisitiveness is a sexy quality to have in the sack, asking questions about your pleasure points and about what makes your hard drive hum. A know-it-all is the last kind of person you want to romp with.
The Choice Is Yours
"All the good ones are either married or gay" just doesn't apply to geeks. There is a sea of eligible code-monkeys to choose from. Mostly quiet, observant and unnoticed until now, geeks have been lying in wait and come in all shapes and sizes to suit your preference. So don't be shy, pluck a processing personality from the geek pool and embrace your inner dork.
When it Comes to Brains, Size Does Matter
Usually well educated, a geek will engage you with enlightened conversation and fascinating tête-à-têtes. Not only that, but nerds generally take spelling and grammar seriously, which makes all the difference between love and loathe when it comes to IMs, emails and text messages.
Cost of Love
Geeks make low-maintenance boyfriends and girlfriends. You rarely have to dole out the dollars for hoity toity dinners on the town. Rather, many geeks are happy to order food in and play online poker together. And come birthdays and Valentine's Day, you won't have to worry about buying garishly expensive gifts: they already have all the techie gear they could ever want.
Theory of Relativity
Some egoists might argue that dating a geek is a safe bet because the nerd needs you more than you need the nerd, which translates into sure-fire fidelity, doting adoration and a brainy knack for remembering all the important dates. And walking side-by-side with your brainy companion can make even your worst hair moments seem trivial and your clumsiest slipups graceful.

Friday, March 14, 2008

Prince Charming...

he is not. He should rather be called Prince Confusing! With a capital "C".
One day, he missed me, can't live without me, wants me to fly back home soon but the next day he couldn't be bothered if he doesn't see me this week-end, even though he hasn't seen me in a week. I'm fine with not seeing him this week-end but don't tell me all week you miss me and then have a headache and change your mind.
On dating sites, most guys have a line in their profiles saying they are not into head games. Leads me to beleive that us women have a pretty bad rep for playing games; but let me tell you this is the guy that would give a game-playing gal a run for her money! Too bad that's not my cup of tea. I'm a straight shooter, brutally honest kind of girl, professionally and personally, so I have no time for this flip flopping BS.

Saturday, March 8, 2008

Friday, February 29, 2008

Sunday, February 24, 2008

So Sweet!

I received this poem from an online “admirer”, before I agreed to meet with him. I thought he was a bit pushy and I was not very comfortable with his pressing desire to meet with me in person. We finally did meet last week, in a public place! Very nice man but we are completely different people, we do however want the same things out of a relationship; we’ll see where that will lead. His poem was the nicest thing a man has shared with me in years and I thought it was worth sharing it with you.

ANNIE'S SMILE
I sat and searched online one day
As many others do
When all at once i saw her smile
Which seemed so pure and true
Would she like me if we met?
Would she even dare?
Given that im just some guy
Would she really care?
Should i let her be alone?
And let her live her life
Just admire her from a far?
Which would'nt seem quite right
How could i express myself?
How should i reveal?
The way her eyes and pretty face
Have really made me feel
These are thoughts now in my mind
Thoughts ive shared with you
Until we meet and share some time
My life will seem quite blue.

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Blind Date!

It’s taken me 2 months before I’ve been able to post about my last blind date of 2007. He was a great guy; passionate about his job, comfortable in his life, highly recommended by a friend and best of all, easy on the eyes! A couple years younger than me but still in my “age range”, he was however looking to have kids. I’m definitely pass the prime age for that and I’ve put a cross on that, decided that this was not the card I was dealt in my life. It was obviously very important for him as it was his “not negotiable” requirement in a relationship.
However, the disappointment was not only during the date per say but also to realize afterwards that he was not calling again. Even though he gave me the “he needs friends like me” speech, we was never to be heard again.
Love connection = 0
Friendship connection = 0
Double rejection. One would think that after all these years of dating, I would have learn to take rejection easier.

Monday, February 18, 2008

The Dating Rules

Here’s a list of Dating Rules, in no particular order. Keep in mind that they apply to me and may not necessarily apply to ALL women. I’ve been on the dating scene for a while and I’ve meet some great guys and some not-so-great dudes; it allowed me to learn from my experiences and to find out what I like and what I don’t like. It a good starting list if you’d like to date me! You feedbacks and comments are welcome!

1. All women, regardless of their size, are sensitive about their weight. I’m no different. Don’t tell me you normally like your woman to be skinny, you may be injured.
2. I need to get into shape but I have no willpower in that department. Understanding, help and support is needed.
3. It would be nice if you offer to drive. I like to sit on the passenger side, with my hand on you thigh while I enjoy the scenery.
4. It’s ok if you don’t call, unless you said you would. Do what you say and say what you do.
5. It is better not to comment on the cleanliness level of my place ~ unless you’re willing to hire Molly Maid. I’m doing my best but I have other priorities…. and I hope you do too!
6. ALWAYS put the seat down and refill the toilet paper if needed. Check in the cupboard.
7. It's very nice of you to pick up the check, but let me pay sometimes.
8. Don't make me pay all the time.
9. Show me you can be a gentleman and know about chivalry: hold the doors open for me. You will score extra points if you know that when walking on a sidewalk, a man should be on the street side to allow the woman to be safer on the inside.
10. Do not call me if you’re drunk.
11. Do not drop by if you’re drunk.
12. Apparently you’re funny when you’re drunk ~ but actually you’re the only one who thinks so.
13. I can have fun without being drunk ~ I would expect you to be the same. If you need to be drunk to be with friends or to have fun, you have a problem and should take care of it. Call me back when you do.
14. Help in the kitchen is sometimes expected and always appreciated.
15. I was told I am a good cook and I hope you’ll enjoy my cooking. I’d like to enjoy yours too once in a while. Extra points available here.
16. I love experimenting with new recipes, but if you don’t tell me you didn’t like what I prepared, I will serve you that dish again….and again. Speak up!
17. Do not give me power tools for special occasions ~ only my father can and he has spoiled me in the past: latest one is a self–propel lawn mower. I hope you know how to use it. Extra point opportunity for home maintenance work.
18. Do not give a me an ultimatum to choose between my pet and you ~ you might not like the answer.
19. Sunday morning is relax time for me: I enjoy brunch while reading the paper. Rushing to the gym is not part of it. Brunch at a restaurant deserves extra points.
20. I enjoy greasy spoon places but you can earn points for taking me to other restaurants not using paper napkins.
21. If there is a “connection” between us, we should have plenty of things to talk about. But if you decide to tell me about your ex-girlfriend during our first date, it tells me you have no intention of seeing me for a second. I have a lot of experience as the rebound-girl and don’t seek to get more!

Monday, January 21, 2008

Minus One for the Single Life!

I’m buried under miles of cables to hook up between the TV, stereo system, VCR and DVD. I’m glad I got rid of the surround sound but I’m not even going to attempt to hook up the wireless Dell receiver! I’m not able to make it work, I tried to hook them up but I only get one component to work. Just too complicated. That’s when I feel very lonely.

Tuesday, January 1, 2008

One Point for the Single Life!

Ah the joys of a day of leisure, with no one else to care for, but me, myself and I!!! I was too tired (from what I not too sure!?) last night to make sausage rolls to nibble on while waiting for the new year to arrive. So I did them this morning and I shamelessly had them for breakfast: Banger pork sausage wrapped in wonderful flaky pasty, with chunky pineapple sauce for dipping. And I followed that up with Scotch eggs!
Once in a while, it's good to do the kind of stuff I couldn’t do if I didn’t have the life I have.

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

First Date?

Shared lunch, dinner or tapas would be great! I love different cuisines and I find that food brings people together and makes them more at ease.
I'm not a coffee drinker so a first date at the local coffee shop doesn't really do it for me! But apple cider at Starbuck's could be a great beginning or let's share a pizza slice on a bench in the park!
What's your Ideal First Date?

Friday, December 7, 2007

Girls Facts: Some Truth in There.

This little blurb is going around the internet these days, I'm posting it here because I find it interesting and I can related to some of the "facts".
When a GIRL is quiet ... millions of things are running in her mind.
When a GIRL is not arguing ... she is thinking deeply.
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions ... she is wondering how long you will be around.
When a GIRL answers " I'm fine " after a few seconds ... she is not at all fine.
When a GIRL stares at you ... she is wondering why you are lying.
When a GIRL lays on your chest ... she is wishing for you to be hers forever.
When a GIRL wants to see you everyday... she wants to be pampered.
When a GIRL says " I love you " ... she means it.
When a GIRL says " I miss you " ... no one in this world can miss you more than that.
Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person .... Find a guy ...
Who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
Who calls you back when you hang up on him.
Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the guy who ... kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Who turns to his friends and says, " That's her!! "

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Looking for a Workout Partner!


26: The number of calories burned in a one-minute kiss!

Sunday, November 18, 2007

Thursday, November 15, 2007

What's With That?


I have a profile on an Online Dating site and I received a notification yesterday that someone added me as one of his favorites. Always exciting to receive such news! Can’t type fast enough to get to my profile and check out this prospective suitor!
When we build our profile on that site, we get to pick an option for the type of relationship we’re looking for; some pick “Friends”, some “Dating” or Hang out”, I chosed "Long Term Relationship". My new fav picked “Intimate Encounter”. Humm, I thought, at least he know what he wants and he’s not afraid to say it.
But when I took a closer look at his profile, in the section where he gets to pick the criteria a member must fill before contacting him, I see that, amongst other criteria, we must “not have messaged other users looking for Intimate Encounter or Sex”…!!!!!
I DON’T UNDERSTAND!!!! Why is it ok for him to look for an Intimate Encounter but it’s not ok for us do it??? I need an insight into the male psyche!
And to top off his confusing profile, he wants a woman to live within 75 miles from him….but I’m 750 miles from him!! Why add me to his Favorite List? What’s with that??

Sunday, November 4, 2007

Friendship Before Love or Love Before Friendship?

The friendship before love theory has never bore fruits for me but I think I mastered the friendship after scenario. I believe that all the men who passed through my life, left an impression which somewhat somehow shaped me into the person I am today. With the positives and the negatives. I try to forget most of the negatives and why the relationship went bust and keep contact with most of my exes, just because I care about the special people in my life.
A little while ago, I was talking to one ex and he expressed how his life was miserable right now. I have my own share of misery but he also asked for my help to give him a hand to organize a few areas of his home, since I’ve done such a good job with mine. His words!
So I spend this week-end organizing his closets and making suggestions for a few home decoration/improvement projects. Even though I feel I did nothing but do laundry, fold clothes and linens and put them in an organized manner, he was very grateful for my help and expressed how he now has the energy to do more.
The wonderful thing about this successful week-end of friendship, even thought we had a very unsuccessful relationship many years ago, is that we both left our pride at the door and expressed our respective needs for help. As I helped him deal with a seemingly insurmountable situation, he fixed one of mine too: my truck headlight bulb had been burned for months. Seems simple but I never seemed to be able to get it fix. I just had to express my problem and since it fitted into his skills, it was easy for him to fix.
It’s now a great balanced relationship where we can both use the other’s forte to make our own life a bit better

Saturday, October 27, 2007

10 Reasons Why Being Single is Great!

1. The mess in my home is my own mess!
2. I have the bed and covers to myself.
3. My money is MY money and not OUR money.
4. I don’t have to rush home after work to make dinner.
5. It’s all about me, all the time; no compromise, no debate.
6. More me-time and more freedom. Spontaneity allowed for everything, from entertainment to shopping: the sky is the limit!
7. I have full control of the remote and can watch whatever I want, without anyone whining or flicking during commercials.
8. I can read a new romance novel every week and find my Perfect Man over and over again! Don’t have to worry about meeting Mr. Unavailable in person.
9. I can travel when, where and with whom I decide to. Or I can spend the day from garage sales to garage sales if I want.
10. Don’t have to deal with in-laws.

10 Reasons Why Being in a Relationship is Great!

1. I have someone to help around the house and take care of the toys: car, bikes, lawnmower, snowblower, boat….
2. I have someone to keep me warm in bed.
3. Two incomes are better than one.
4. There’s someone to cook for and someone to cook for me.
5. I have a date to weddings.
6. I have a sounding board for those frivolous and extravagant ideas I come up with.
7. I have someone to cuddle to when watching movies.
8. I don’t have to go to Singles Dances anymore, cause I have better things to do!
9. I have someone to drive when we go on road trips.
10. It’s great to have in-laws and an extended family.

Sunday, October 7, 2007

From A to Z

Adventurous
Bubbly
Caring
Demanding
Energetic
Fair
Generous
Honest
Independent
Joie de Vivre
Knottiness
Loyal
Monogamous
No-Nonsense
Outgoing
Passionate
Quick-witted
Real
Straight Shooter
Truthful
Uncommon
Voyager
Wysiwyg
XLI
Yen
Zestful

About Me

Looking for someone who eats popcorn by the handful, not just one kernel at a time! Life is too short not to grab every opportunity that pops up.

I’m a passionate, independent, adventurous soul, looking for the light of my life. I’m a very down to earth, tell-it-like-it-is (sometimes just a bit too straightforward, my friends tell me!) kind of gal, looking for Mr. Right - not Mr. Right Now!!

Never really been into the bar/club scene, but do enjoy going out every now and then to a pub and sitting down with a drink and good food. I also enjoy a quiet evening at home, with friends or a day trip to explore & discover the area.

No children(too late for that now), no exes lurking in the background; I'm independent, unattached, free and would like to share everything with someone special.

Looking for a special spark to get things going towards the right direction. Love a guy that can laugh at himself, has his stuff together and knows what he wants and is not afraid to go for it!!! Sense of humour is a definate; life would be just too long and boring!

Welcome!

I've decided to write about my adventures in the singles world. Some are funny, some are sad but they all made me who I am today!
Being single is no longer taboo (I hope!!), friends know that I always make light of my "situation" and is always on the look out for a lead for a good man. Whatever a good man is, it could very well be a bad boy!! How knows? Certainly not me, I haven't found him yet!!
I'll try to enlighten you as to who I am and what I'm looking for and I hope you will participate by sending your comments, recommendations and send your friends to my blog, the more the merrier!! And who knows, maybe HE will come along through this...