Sunday, November 18, 2007
Thursday, November 15, 2007
What's With That?
I have a profile on an Online Dating site and I received a notification yesterday that someone added me as one of his favorites. Always exciting to receive such news! Can’t type fast enough to get to my profile and check out this prospective suitor!
When we build our profile on that site, we get to pick an option for the type of relationship we’re looking for; some pick “Friends”, some “Dating” or Hang out”, I chosed "Long Term Relationship". My new fav picked “Intimate Encounter”. Humm, I thought, at least he know what he wants and he’s not afraid to say it.
But when I took a closer look at his profile, in the section where he gets to pick the criteria a member must fill before contacting him, I see that, amongst other criteria, we must “not have messaged other users looking for Intimate Encounter or Sex”…!!!!!
I DON’T UNDERSTAND!!!! Why is it ok for him to look for an Intimate Encounter but it’s not ok for us do it??? I need an insight into the male psyche!
And to top off his confusing profile, he wants a woman to live within 75 miles from him….but I’m 750 miles from him!! Why add me to his Favorite List? What’s with that??
When we build our profile on that site, we get to pick an option for the type of relationship we’re looking for; some pick “Friends”, some “Dating” or Hang out”, I chosed "Long Term Relationship". My new fav picked “Intimate Encounter”. Humm, I thought, at least he know what he wants and he’s not afraid to say it.
But when I took a closer look at his profile, in the section where he gets to pick the criteria a member must fill before contacting him, I see that, amongst other criteria, we must “not have messaged other users looking for Intimate Encounter or Sex”…!!!!!
I DON’T UNDERSTAND!!!! Why is it ok for him to look for an Intimate Encounter but it’s not ok for us do it??? I need an insight into the male psyche!
And to top off his confusing profile, he wants a woman to live within 75 miles from him….but I’m 750 miles from him!! Why add me to his Favorite List? What’s with that??
Sunday, November 4, 2007
Friendship Before Love or Love Before Friendship?
The friendship before love theory has never bore fruits for me but I think I mastered the friendship after scenario. I believe that all the men who passed through my life, left an impression which somewhat somehow shaped me into the person I am today. With the positives and the negatives. I try to forget most of the negatives and why the relationship went bust and keep contact with most of my exes, just because I care about the special people in my life.
A little while ago, I was talking to one ex and he expressed how his life was miserable right now. I have my own share of misery but he also asked for my help to give him a hand to organize a few areas of his home, since I’ve done such a good job with mine. His words!
So I spend this week-end organizing his closets and making suggestions for a few home decoration/improvement projects. Even though I feel I did nothing but do laundry, fold clothes and linens and put them in an organized manner, he was very grateful for my help and expressed how he now has the energy to do more.
The wonderful thing about this successful week-end of friendship, even thought we had a very unsuccessful relationship many years ago, is that we both left our pride at the door and expressed our respective needs for help. As I helped him deal with a seemingly insurmountable situation, he fixed one of mine too: my truck headlight bulb had been burned for months. Seems simple but I never seemed to be able to get it fix. I just had to express my problem and since it fitted into his skills, it was easy for him to fix.
It’s now a great balanced relationship where we can both use the other’s forte to make our own life a bit better
A little while ago, I was talking to one ex and he expressed how his life was miserable right now. I have my own share of misery but he also asked for my help to give him a hand to organize a few areas of his home, since I’ve done such a good job with mine. His words!
So I spend this week-end organizing his closets and making suggestions for a few home decoration/improvement projects. Even though I feel I did nothing but do laundry, fold clothes and linens and put them in an organized manner, he was very grateful for my help and expressed how he now has the energy to do more.
The wonderful thing about this successful week-end of friendship, even thought we had a very unsuccessful relationship many years ago, is that we both left our pride at the door and expressed our respective needs for help. As I helped him deal with a seemingly insurmountable situation, he fixed one of mine too: my truck headlight bulb had been burned for months. Seems simple but I never seemed to be able to get it fix. I just had to express my problem and since it fitted into his skills, it was easy for him to fix.
It’s now a great balanced relationship where we can both use the other’s forte to make our own life a bit better
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