Looking for the Genuine Ones

If only this could be done to all the ones, men and women, who misrepresent themselves on dating sites.....

Kiss Slowly & Love Deeply

Online Dating Dry Spell

The dreaded coffee date never happened, so I worried for nothing! After we decided on the coffee shop location, he went on a business trip and never contacted me again, I guess he lost interest. Oh well…..
Been chatting with a couple of other guys from Plenty of Fish but nothing too earth-shattering. Unfortunately.
There’s this computer programmer I been chatting with online and he really stimulates me intellectually but I don’t think he’s as eager to get my emails as I am to get his. And then there’s this other computer guy form my home province but…again loss of interest. For a strange reason, I seem to often hook up with IT guys: 3 this month alone and a few in my past. Wonder if that’s a trend…..I discovered recently that for a successful relationship, I need to be attracted intellectually (and that happens rarely…), and probably because I’m really keen on computers, the geeks get my attention.
On another note, I got an offer from a middle-eastern man living in Spain, to move here to get to know me. I so don’t think so!! But it’s nice to know that when I get desperate, I have an option!!

The Dreaded Coffee Shop Date!

What is it with guys who can only commit to a first meeting at Tim Horton’s?? It’s such an awful place to meet: sitting in front of each other, under fluorescent lighting, sizing up the other, with the crowd around listening in your conversation. For me, that spells easy escape route. So juvenile. I feel that if we somewhat connect online, we should be able to behave for a proper date even if the in-person meeting is not turning up as we would have like. Everybody can be interesting, if oly you're willing to listen. And to top it off, I wrote on my profile that since I’m not a coffee drinker, a meeting at Timmie’s just does do it for me. I guess some guys don’t read the profile in its entirety…. Anyway, so this guy wants to meet at Tim’s and I agreed because I didn’t know of any better coffee shops in that town, it’s a bit far from mine. BUT as he is a Computer Analyst, you know he scores extra points just for being a geek (see previous posting!) So knock on wood!

7 Reasons to Date a Geek!

This is written by Kelly Jones ~ she writes a lot of stuff on love and relationship; I liked this one so much, I had to post it here! Maybe I should reorient my search .....

Geekiness is the new cool. Just look at super-nerd Bill Gates and his ilk and you'll see that the geeks truly have inherited the earth.
And our new need for all things nerdy has infiltrated our sense of romance, too. Herewith, seven reasons to give that geek in the next cubicle a second look and to get dreamy with a dork.
Perks by Proxy
The original definition of a geek is "a carnival performer whose act consists of outrageous feats such as biting the heads off live animals," but modern geekiness relates more to a certain obsession for all things computer- and technology-related, as well as a general sense of nerdiness. And so, dating a geek keeps you (and your approving pals and family) in the know and stockpiled with the world's newest and most fabulous technological gadgetry. You'll never have to make nice to your Internet provider's idiot customer service rep again. Here, here.
Dressed for Code
Many hardware hackers hang about in ill-fitting, mismatched bought-by-their-mama duds. To them, "style" has more to do with matching their iPod case to their pocket protector than handing over handfuls of cash for a few fancy labels. So when a geek actually gets dressed up for a special occasion (a second date with you might be such an outing), it's hard not to notice, and the old fall-for-a-hottie-in-a-suit thing comes into play.
Cyber Salaciousness
Geeks are inherently curious about the world around them. And inquisitiveness is a sexy quality to have in the sack, asking questions about your pleasure points and about what makes your hard drive hum. A know-it-all is the last kind of person you want to romp with.
The Choice Is Yours
"All the good ones are either married or gay" just doesn't apply to geeks. There is a sea of eligible code-monkeys to choose from. Mostly quiet, observant and unnoticed until now, geeks have been lying in wait and come in all shapes and sizes to suit your preference. So don't be shy, pluck a processing personality from the geek pool and embrace your inner dork.
When it Comes to Brains, Size Does Matter
Usually well educated, a geek will engage you with enlightened conversation and fascinating tête-à-têtes. Not only that, but nerds generally take spelling and grammar seriously, which makes all the difference between love and loathe when it comes to IMs, emails and text messages.
Cost of Love
Geeks make low-maintenance boyfriends and girlfriends. You rarely have to dole out the dollars for hoity toity dinners on the town. Rather, many geeks are happy to order food in and play online poker together. And come birthdays and Valentine's Day, you won't have to worry about buying garishly expensive gifts: they already have all the techie gear they could ever want.
Theory of Relativity
Some egoists might argue that dating a geek is a safe bet because the nerd needs you more than you need the nerd, which translates into sure-fire fidelity, doting adoration and a brainy knack for remembering all the important dates. And walking side-by-side with your brainy companion can make even your worst hair moments seem trivial and your clumsiest slipups graceful.

Prince Charming...

he is not. He should rather be called Prince Confusing! With a capital "C".

One day, he missed me, can't live without me, wants me to fly back home soon but the next day he couldn't be bothered if he doesn't see me this week-end, even though he hasn't seen me in a week. I'm fine with not seeing him this week-end but don't tell me all week you miss me and then have a headache and change your mind.

On dating sites, most guys have a line in their profiles saying they are not into head games. Leads me to beleive that us women have a pretty bad rep for playing games; but let me tell you this is the guy that would give a game-playing gal a run for her money! Too bad that's not my cup of tea. I'm a straight shooter, brutally honest kind of girl, professionally and personally, so I have no time for this flip flopping BS.

LOST in Love

by astrogrl41

Is He or Is He Not?

So Sweet!

I received this poem from an online “admirer”, before I agreed to meet with him. I thought he was a bit pushy and I was not very comfortable with his pressing desire to meet with me in person. We finally did meet last week, in a public place! Very nice man but we are completely different people, we do however want the same things out of a relationship; we’ll see where that will lead. His poem was the nicest thing a man has shared with me in years and I thought it was worth sharing it with you.

ANNIE'S SMILE
I sat and searched online one day
As many others do
When all at once i saw her smile
Which seemed so pure and true
Would she like me if we met?
Would she even dare?
Given that im just some guy
Would she really care?
Should i let her be alone?
And let her live her life
Just admire her from a far?
Which would'nt seem quite right
How could i express myself?
How should i reveal?
The way her eyes and pretty face
Have really made me feel
These are thoughts now in my mind
Thoughts ive shared with you
Until we meet and share some time
My life will seem quite blue.

Blind Date!

It’s taken me 2 months before I’ve been able to post about my last blind date of 2007. He was a great guy; passionate about his job, comfortable in his life, highly recommended by a friend and best of all, easy on the eyes! A couple years younger than me but still in my “age range”, he was however looking to have kids. I’m definitely pass the prime age for that and I’ve put a cross on that, decided that this was not the card I was dealt in my life. It was obviously very important for him as it was his “not negotiable” requirement in a relationship.
However, the disappointment was not only during the date per say but also to realize afterwards that he was not calling again. Even though he gave me the “he needs friends like me” speech, we was never to be heard again.

Love connection = 0

Friendship connection = 0

Double rejection. One would think that after all these years of dating, I would have learn to take rejection easier.

The Dating Rules

Here’s a list of Dating Rules, in no particular order. Keep in mind that they apply to me and may not necessarily apply to ALL women. I’ve been on the dating scene for a while and I’ve meet some great guys and some not-so-great dudes; it allowed me to learn from my experiences and to find out what I like and what I don’t like. It a good starting list if you’d like to date me! You feedbacks and comments are welcome!

1. All women, regardless of their size, are sensitive about their weight. I’m no different. Don’t tell me you normally like your woman to be skinny, you may be injured.
2. I need to get into shape but I have no willpower in that department. Understanding, help and support is needed.
3. It would be nice if you offer to drive. I like to sit on the passenger side, with my hand on you thigh while I enjoy the scenery.
4. It’s ok if you don’t call, unless you said you would. Do what you say and say what you do.
5. It is better not to comment on the cleanliness level of my place ~ unless you’re willing to hire Molly Maid. I’m doing my best but I have other priorities…. and I hope you do too!
6. ALWAYS put the seat down and refill the toilet paper if needed. Check in the cupboard.
7. It's very nice of you to pick up the check, but let me pay sometimes.
8. Don't make me pay all the time.
9. Show me you can be a gentleman and know about chivalry: hold the doors open for me. You will score extra points if you know that when walking on a sidewalk, a man should be on the street side to allow the woman to be safer on the inside.
10. Do not call me if you’re drunk.
11. Do not drop by if you’re drunk.
12. Apparently you’re funny when you’re drunk ~ but actually you’re the only one who thinks so.
13. I can have fun without being drunk ~ I would expect you to be the same. If you need to be drunk to be with friends or to have fun, you have a problem and should take care of it. Call me back when you do.
14. Help in the kitchen is sometimes expected and always appreciated.
15. I was told I am a good cook and I hope you’ll enjoy my cooking. I’d like to enjoy yours too once in a while. Extra points available here.
16. I love experimenting with new recipes, but if you don’t tell me you didn’t like what I prepared, I will serve you that dish again….and again. Speak up!
17. Do not give me power tools for special occasions ~ only my father can and he has spoiled me in the past: latest one is a self–propel lawn mower. I hope you know how to use it. Extra point opportunity for home maintenance work.
18. Do not give a me an ultimatum to choose between my pet and you ~ you might not like the answer.
19. Sunday morning is relax time for me: I enjoy brunch while reading the paper. Rushing to the gym is not part of it. Brunch at a restaurant deserves extra points.
20. I enjoy greasy spoon places but you can earn points for taking me to other restaurants not using paper napkins.
21. If there is a “connection” between us, we should have plenty of things to talk about. But if you decide to tell me about your ex-girlfriend during our first date, it tells me you have no intention of seeing me for a second. I have a lot of experience as the rebound-girl and don’t seek to get more!

Minus One for the Single Life!

I’m buried under miles of cables to hook up between the TV, stereo system, VCR and DVD. I’m glad I got rid of the surround sound but I’m not even going to attempt to hook up the wireless Dell receiver! I’m not able to make it work, I tried to hook them up but I only get one component to work. Just too complicated. That’s when I feel very lonely.

One Point for the Single Life!

Ah the joys of a day of leisure, with no one else to care for, but me, myself and I!!! I was too tired (from what I not too sure!?) last night to make sausage rolls to nibble on while waiting for the new year to arrive. So I did them this morning and I shamelessly had them for breakfast: Banger pork sausage wrapped in wonderful flaky pasty, with chunky pineapple sauce for dipping. And I followed that up with Scotch eggs!

Once in a while, it's good to do the kind of stuff I couldn’t do if I didn’t have the life I have.